In my family, it's not just rule after rule after rule. It's about relationships. We have fun and enjoy each other's company. It's about Love. But, at the same time, I still expect my children to obey the rules of our family. The Christian life is the same way. It's not all about the rules. God is the perfect Father, and He does want you to be obey the rules of the family because you are a part of the family!