Why does your heart ache for someone even though you’ve never dated this person?
The longing for a husband or wife is a very deep desire in the heart; however, this deep desire is often attached to trivial relationships that are nowhere near capable of fulfilling the level of longing for love we have.
This is why people start hurting so bad about something that seems so small. It’s not that this random guy meant that much to you. It’s not that this woman’s rejection of you that you barely knew is really that hurtful. Rather, the intense pain you feel is there because you attached a deep desire in your heart to this “not very serious” relationship situation.
The solution is to recognize this, detach your desire from this person, and present this deep desire to the Lord. 1 Peter 5:6-7 instructs, “Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.”
God has a plan. Trust him with your heart.