Proverbs 21:9 & 25:24 are a repeat of each other and often cause for misunderstanding with
women and men. Although Solomon mentions a woman or the context may indicate a wife who
is contentious, most people think in terms of a woman who has become this way while living in
the house. Not so… let’s examine and see this applies for everyone.
Background: Solomon is writing this! The man had 700 wives.
Contentious – quarrelsome, a person who desires argument over peace for perceived control
of others.
1. Why is it better to get on the roof and go to the corner instead of being in the house?

2. Does the Bible deal only with contentious women?

3. What is the difference between a contentious woman and a contentious man?

4. Prov. 18 22  He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.
What is a wife, and can she be a contentious woman?

Irritation – the real issue with a contentious woman
Prov. 19 13  A foolish son is the ruin of his father, And the contentions of a wife are a continual
[c] dripping(irritation).
Typical responses to irritation:
1. Avoidance 2. Talk to a third party 3. Attempt to maintain composure 4. Force serenity

Biblical Way to Deal with Irritation – contentious woman/ or anyone.
Phil. 2 3  Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let
each esteem others better than himself. 4  Let each of you look out not only for his own
interests, but also for the interests of others
1. I must be humble, not conceited
2. I must lift them up above me
3. I still look out for my interests and theirs.